I Don't Wanna Go

It's important to be honest to yourself, especially when self-assessing.

I think one of the biggest challenges as far as being in a relationship with me is trying to break through and get me to talk about things that are near and dear to me.

Being very much an independent person, I don't really need to talk to or vent to people very often. I have no problem thinking things through in my head and being completely content with being alone. Where others might need someone to bounce ideas off of or simply just to vent to, I often opt to deal with things without any kind of outside feedback.

Just You And Me And A Plane And A Pilot

I've never been attracted to someone because of their negativity. I know some couples who say "we hate the same things; we're a perfect match!"

I can't imagine negativity ever being attractive to me at all

Sing about me

I've recently found myself struggling with conversations. I'll be in a group of people. We'll be talking about something and I'm patiently listening, enjoying the conversation. The other people in the convo are chatting it up, laughing, having a good time. Then someone will make a point that I don't agree with.

This is where I find myself struggling. I could speak up on why I don't agree, but normally my argument is based on logic and reasoning that isn't necessarily equivalent to the level of logic and reasoning that had been going on during the conversation. While they're appealing more to their emotions, I'm basing my argument almost solely on logic and reason. While my argument might not be nearly as sexy or funny as theirs, I like to think that my argument is much more thought out.

I could be "that guy," speak up and (probably) kill the jovial mood, or I could keep quiet and keep the conversation going with no interruption.

Sometimes, however, I feel like if i don't speak up, I'm complying and confirming that their viewpoint is okay. If I stay quiet when someone brings up a blatantly racist joke(hilarity of the joke notwithstanding), does that mean that I'm not doing anything to stop that kind of racism? Does that mean that I'm okay with it?

I don't wanna be the guy who has to kill the mood, but I also don't want to be the guy who doesn't stand up for what he believes in

Learn About Aiming

Something about the innocence of a child and whatnot. Yeah

Cavana

lianne la havas by 3030fm

If I were a coffee shop going man(and I'm not), this is the kinda music I'd want played as I sit and enjoy my morning brew

Woly Holy Moly

But You Aint Fuckin With My Dougie Though

The Sex Sex

I uh, you and uh, yeah...

You Don't Know What's In Store

Our definitions of things are fluid. Permanence is part of the definition of "definition," but when we define things, I think it's overlooked how those definitions can change depending on our perspective

Start It Up

In any relationship, be it familial, friendly, or more than friendly, there's a delicate balance you must strike or risk losing the relationship. The delicate balance between compromising and refusing to compromise is huge.

On one hand, you can approach a problem like, "alrite, my friend is super nosy. But that's okay, I could still work with that."

On the other hand, you could approach it like, "fuck that, I can't deal with all that. They're gonna have to adjust or gtfo."

I think it's interesting as hell where people draw that line in their relationships

Armistice

Good writers find a way to make you relate to them. After reading/listening to them, you end up feeling like you know them on a personal level.

So when I get genuinely pissed that I'm not as good of a creative writer as say, a Frank Ocean, I have to be okay with that. Hes a talented writer, probably one of the better ones out there, BECAUSE what he writes is relatable. It makes me feel like, "I know him personally. I know what he's anxious about, what makes him nervous, what he loves. Shit, he's just a regular dude. If he can do it, so can I!" But the fact of the matter is that I dont know him. He's a terrific writer and as much as I feel like I can do what he does, truth is I just plain can't do it as well as him. And that's okay

Crack Rock

I think it's important to find a way to genuinely love your enemy. Empathize with them and figure out why they are how they are, and all that stuff.

Much better than bringing more hate into ze vorld

Pink Matter

It's dope that you're even willing to put yourself in that position! I'm a huge fan of putting yourself in weird/awakward positions. You get to see what kind of person you are by looking at how you respond

She Was And You Are Madly Involved

One of the biggest things I look for in a girl that I consider a potential girlfriend is how we argue. If the dynamics behind our arguments are even a little bit unhealthy, then it doesn't bode well for her and I. To explain, lemme introduce a sports analogy.

In any major sport, coaches and general managers need to have a general philosophy on how to build their team. Together they need to decide the direction that the team will take.

Will they sacrifice long term success for making a run in the short term? Will they tank in the present in hopes of doing well in the future? Are they more concerned with getting wins above everything or does the process matter?

That last question is huge. Being result-oriented means you don't give a damn how things play out, as long as you get results. It doesn't matter if your team played terribly as long as you got the win.

Being process-oriented means you don't mind taking a loss if it means that your team was still playing its best, playing the way you want them to. It doesn't matter that your team lost because they still played well and stuck to the game plan.

In sports, it's a luxury to be able to afford to try to go for being both process-oriented and goal-oriented. I can't think of one franchise that successfully goes for both; pretty much every franchise chooses one or the other.

And when arguing with the person you're in a relationship with, just like sports, you have to choose one or the other. In this case, being goal-oriented means you care about who wins and who loses. It's almost like sports where you keep a count of wins and losses.

In my case, I'm very much process-oriented. This means I don't care who wins and who loses the arguments. I care more that we argue in a decent and healthy way. I hope we keep the yelling and screaming to a minimum and work more towards keeping a decent discussion with us working rationally and logically towards a shared conclusion.

I could see someone making the argument that if my boo and I are working logically and rationally, that just doesn't sound very romantic; that this way of arguing is devoid of passion and emotion. To that I say that it's not like logic and emotion are on opposite ends of a scale; both are, in my mind, completely independent variables. To say that a logical and rational argument is an argument devoid of emotion and passion is ignorant. I guarantee that my arguments with my boo are going to be full of emotion and passion. I can't imagine anything more beautiful than mi novia y yo working together to solve our problems in a logical way. Hell, afterwards we could celebrate by fucking each others' brains out or cooking a nice dinner together. Yeah, fuck anyone who says that logical and rational arguments lack passion and emotion. Just because we're not yelling and screaming doesn't mean we're not taking each others' emotions into consideration.

tl;dr Fuck who wins and who loses, it's okay to take a loss. It's more important that the arguments that take place between mi novia y yo are process-oriented as opposed to goal-oriented.

My Whole Life Long

My wife and I will dedicate every other Sunday morning to bumping music super loud throughout the house and cleaning everything from top to bottom. Dusting, sweeping, vacuuming, washing, you name it. Then we'll proceed to have sex all over the place. We'll call it...nvm that part is tbd, lol

I MEAN, I DON'T WANNA BRAG, BUT UH...

More Than I Thought Could Exist

I've been fortunate enough to have visited many places across the globe in my lifetime. Each place has had its challenges but they've always been outweighed by its benefits.

For example, the Philippines is hot as fuck. The humidity doesn't help. The fact that I barely know anyone there definitely doesn't help. But my parents made it a point to visit every few years(by my count, I've gone 7 times now), because they wanted my sister and I to see how rough it is out there. They wanted us to see how our relatives lived, how close we were to living that lifestyle. My parents never admitted to it, but I'm sure that was an element of why they were so adamant on going so often. They wanted us to see homeless people littering(no pun intended) the streets of Manila. They wanted us to see how our cousins continue to be happy and content with what little money they had. They might not have very many possessions, but I'll be damned if they weren't killing that damn "Otso otso" dance, lol.

When we went to Tokyo, it wasn't under the best circumstances. My Auntie, who had married a Japanese man, had lived in Tokyo with him and their 3 daughters for a few years now and was well established as a housewife, taking care of the kids while her husband worked flying helicopters in and around Tokyo. One day her husband was walking around the neighborhood when a teen driver ran him over, killing him.

When my Mom got the news, she didn't hesitate in taking my sister and I out of school. We caught a flight the next day to Tokyo, where we would be the only real family my Auntie would have during that time. My sister and I were excited to see one of the major cities of the world, but we knew that we weren't there on vacation; we were there to show just how strong family is. We didn't have that much money back then(we never really have, lol), but the quickness and decisiveness my mom showed with that entire experience will stick with me forever. My sister and I might not have gotten to see as much of Tokyo as we would have wished, but I know I learned so much from that trip.

I don't even know what the point of this post is, lol. But damn it's therapeutic to recount all these things

You So Muhfuckin Gorgeous

Man, the fuckery that's gonna ensue once I'm done with summer classes...

Broken Down By Love

Ayo the bravest thing you could do is allow yourself to love someone.

Part of me wants to fall in love and get in touch with that side of me, pero another side sees things like this and single ryan wants to yell "HOLY FUCK YOU ARE SO CHEESY, MOTHERFUCKER!"

But listening to this song gets me back to "In a relationship Ryan," the dude who had no qualms with telling a girl how he felt about her and would stop at nothing to make her happy. Fuckin beeyootifull

Ay but check out how the visuals for this song match the background to this here blog. Anyone? Anyone? fasho

You So Sus

It's so dope watching people who have obvious chemistry together. Whether it be a duo, a triad, or a bigger group, people interacting and socializing in a way that exhibits their trust and belief in each other is beautiful.

You can see this in sports, relationships, movies, bands, bleh

Sweet Life

I feel like I have this primal need, a biological desire to make my mom happy. To show a girl what a real man is. To teach my daughter what a real father is and what to look for in a man

Catching That Breeze

I think that one of the most important (and definitely my favorite) occupation is the writer. Being able to write and describe different aspects of life is a gift and talent that so many possess, but only so few are truly good at. Writers who are able to describe how one feels when they're in love, or heartbroken, or grieving, or grateful possess a talent that can help soooo many people. Maybe this help isn't in as direct a form as say, a doctor, but I'm sure most people can think of a song or a scene in a movie that meant more to them than just a few words sung along to a beat or the video of a couple of actors acting out a story.

Some people argue that writers belong no where near the top of the list of most important occupations. They argue that they can't even begin to start their job until they have a story. Life has to occur first before the writer can write and describe those feelings and emotions. It's more important to have someone like a doctor or even a plumber around; at least they can do something right here right now.

And I see their point. There's quite a bit of strength behind that argument. But I think the argument falls apart when you see that the argument works on an assumption that life is linear. Life occurs firstly, then a writer is able to do their job. Someone has to have an experience before a writer can take that experience and put it into words.

However, life is far from linear. Someone does have to have an experience before a writer can take that experience and put it into words. But that writer's work is later digested by people and if the writer is successful, their work affects those people. Hopefully it affects those people enough to affect how they make future decisions, thus breaking any sort of linear direction that life is supposed to take, according to these critics.

Sidenote: Just like in Spanish, the structure of my English writing is subpar. But I'll continue to push myself to write about random shit I'm thinking about, even if only because I think this shit is interesting as fuck

You Seemed Impressed By The Way You Came In

It's rare that a person possesses enough patience and confidence to allow someone else to be the alpha male/female in a conversation. A lot of people I know try really hard to become the leader of the conversation, but far fewer allow someone else to guide the discussion. More people yell and interrupt their way into the driver's seat. Most of the time this comes from a place of excitement and genuine interest in the conversation, which is great; however, it isn't always what's best for the sake of the conversation

And while we're talking about patience, it really bugs me when passengers are impatient. If the driver misses a turn, so many people start acting like the driver killed their dog or something. "NO TURN RIGHT YOU MISSED THE TURN YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO TURN RIGHT BACK THERE!"

It's not that big of a deal. He/she missed the turn. And that's okay. All they have to do is find make a quick detour and you guys will be back on your merry way. That solution is much better/safer than them being a dick and forcing their way back into traffic just to save a minute or two

Burnin Up Burnin Up

There's something about watching something that's bigger than you.

Fireworks, the ocean, lightning.

I remember working late one night at Sea World. My coworkers and I would take our breaks and our lunch and spend it lying back and watching Sea World's fireworks explode directly above us. That's gotta be one of my fondest memories

Channel Orange

I loved the hell out of this guy and his music before, but now I see a picture of him and it represents so much more to me.


Frank Ocean coming out is such a huge deal for our generation. This is another huge step towards reshaping the way our society views the LGBT community.


His coming out has huge effects on how lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transsexuals feel about themselves. Frank Ocean coming out publicly about his sexuality makes it easier for other people to come out. (This also applies to any celebrity coming out with something that is uncomfortable to society. Think Magic Johnson with his AIDS announcement.) Society can be merciless on those who are different, but Frank Ocean's announcement makes it less "weird" and "different" to be lesbian, gay, bisexual or transsexual.

For someone whose art is universally loved to take this risk is a brilliant and gutsy move. I can't help but hope that his coming out can be another step towards helping eliminate homophobia

Go Left, Go Left, Go Left Right Left

I wholeheartedly believe that music(and other forms of art, but especially music), at its best, is meant to make one feel one way or another. The stronger the emotion, the better.

One of the implications of this belief is that even the songs and movies that make you so sad, angry, or scared that you can't stand to watch them are technically still greatttttt forms of art. Even if you never want to see/hear it again, that doesn't detract from the fact that the artist was successful in conveying a certain feeling/emotion.

Funny how that works. You would think that to be successful, art should make you want to keep coming back for more

I Need To Quit Bullshittin

Bring The Cups Baby I Can Bring The Drink

Scootin fruity. Scootin fruity.

The Waves Crashing

It's crazy how a well written post on a sports blog
or a well performed spoken word piece
or an actor giving an oscar-worthy performance
or a veteran quarterback running a 2 minute drill
or any piece of art, for that matter
can make you feel so comfortable and taken care of

but you dont eem' know what i'm talkin about, do you!

I'm Dreaming I Can Still Believe In You

It has been reported that some victims of torture, during the act, would retreat into a fantasy world from which they could not wake up. In this catatonic state, the victim lived in a world just like their normal one, except they weren't being tortured. The only way that they realized they needed to wake up was a note they found in their fantasy world. It would tell them about their condition, and tell them to wake up. Even then, it would take months until they were ready to discard their fantasy world and please wake up.


This block of text is probably the scariest thing I've ever read, lol