Jeraflu

Politeness and empathy is the key to all human interactions.

Don't use "being honest" as an excuse to act like an ass. Being polite and honest are not mutually exclusive. If you say things like "at least I'm not bullshitting you" or "I just say what I feel" to excuse bad behavior, you are doing it wrong.

Being "nice" to people and having manners isn't being fake. It's being an adult.

Also, women are people too. This seems obvious, but I think a lot of young men don't seem to realize the way they are behaving reflects that this isn't something they are aware of. They aren't a mysterious race of creatures that are all conspiring. They are individuals, shaped by predisposition and life experiences just like you. Treat them like they are just like you. Not like an obstacle to be overcome.

Confident people who operate from strength let the other person go first, give them a break, help others out, etc., in the same way that the fastest runner gives the slower guy a head start. Fearful (and/or not too bright) people fight to secure every advantage for themselves.

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