Not Just In It For The Ride

It's crazy when parents take the attitude that "while you live under my roof, you WILL ______." I think that the strength of this attitude is that the parent realizes that they can only influence and guide their children so much. The parents think that their children should be obedient and "good little kids" for as long as they live with their parents.

My criticism of this approach is that it gives the impression that once your children move out and are no longer living under your roof, they have free reign to forget everything you ever taught them. It makes it seem like you as parents don't give a damn what they do, now that they're off and living in the world.

Instead of giving the impression that you'll stop caring once they move out, you need to make it clear that you'll always love them(hopefully this is the case, lol), regardless of whether or not they live with you. They need to know that you care whether or not they are good people, regardless of their circumstances