if a lot of women i know were more assertive as far as approaching men, they'd see a lot more results. if a girl came up to me and made it known that she was interested, i'd be very much impressed; so much so that i'd take care of the rest of the first impression stuff(going out together for the first time, getting to know each other).
if a girl were to approach me and wasn't ambiguous about her feelings(a lot of women have no idea how ambiguous they can be about their feelings), she'd be head and shoulders above every other woman who's not trying to approach a guy she's interested in.
adding on to the line about ambiguity, picture this. a girl comes up to a guy and strikes up a conversation. there might be some slight flirting, but it's ambiguous. they have a good time and enjoy talking to each other.
later on, the guy assumes she was interested. maybe he makes a move on her, *like a man should.* however, the girl is disgusted, and she can't believe that she "can't approach a guy without him thinking that she's into him. men are such DOGS!"
or maybe the guy enjoys the conversation but thinks maybe she's not really interested, she was just being social and wanted to make a friend. he doesn't make a move(which btw, is what guys are *supposed* to do). the girl, who actually was trying to make a move, is disappointed, even mad, that the guy didn't catch on and try to make a move. now the guy is made out to be clueless and not a man because he didn't do the *manly* thing and make a move.
Ladies, life is too short. Go introduce yourself to the guy at the bar who's been checkin u out all night. He's probably wishing u would. The same goes for guys, of course. But I think a lot of women get caught up on the man making the first move.
-Mayer Hawthorne
this is one of the reasons why im not a big fan of gender roles. i believe we've got to realize that we're more alike than we are different and that encouraging gender roles limits us more than it empowers us.
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