I've recently found myself struggling with conversations. I'll be in a group of people. We'll be talking about something and I'm patiently listening, enjoying the conversation. The other people in the convo are chatting it up, laughing, having a good time. Then someone will make a point that I don't agree with.
This is where I find myself struggling. I could speak up on why I don't agree, but normally my argument is based on logic and reasoning that isn't necessarily equivalent to the level of logic and reasoning that had been going on during the conversation. While they're appealing more to their emotions, I'm basing my argument almost solely on logic and reason. While my argument might not be nearly as sexy or funny as theirs, I like to think that my argument is much more thought out.
I could be "that guy," speak up and (probably) kill the jovial mood, or I could keep quiet and keep the conversation going with no interruption.
Sometimes, however, I feel like if i don't speak up, I'm complying and confirming that their viewpoint is okay. If I stay quiet when someone brings up a blatantly racist joke(hilarity of the joke notwithstanding), does that mean that I'm not doing anything to stop that kind of racism? Does that mean that I'm okay with it?
I don't wanna be the guy who has to kill the mood, but I also don't want to be the guy who doesn't stand up for what he believes in
This is where I find myself struggling. I could speak up on why I don't agree, but normally my argument is based on logic and reasoning that isn't necessarily equivalent to the level of logic and reasoning that had been going on during the conversation. While they're appealing more to their emotions, I'm basing my argument almost solely on logic and reason. While my argument might not be nearly as sexy or funny as theirs, I like to think that my argument is much more thought out.
I could be "that guy," speak up and (probably) kill the jovial mood, or I could keep quiet and keep the conversation going with no interruption.
Sometimes, however, I feel like if i don't speak up, I'm complying and confirming that their viewpoint is okay. If I stay quiet when someone brings up a blatantly racist joke(hilarity of the joke notwithstanding), does that mean that I'm not doing anything to stop that kind of racism? Does that mean that I'm okay with it?
I don't wanna be the guy who has to kill the mood, but I also don't want to be the guy who doesn't stand up for what he believes in
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