You Don't Know What's In Store

Our definitions of things are fluid. Permanence is part of the definition of "definition," but when we define things, I think it's overlooked how those definitions can change depending on our perspective

Start It Up

In any relationship, be it familial, friendly, or more than friendly, there's a delicate balance you must strike or risk losing the relationship. The delicate balance between compromising and refusing to compromise is huge.

On one hand, you can approach a problem like, "alrite, my friend is super nosy. But that's okay, I could still work with that."

On the other hand, you could approach it like, "fuck that, I can't deal with all that. They're gonna have to adjust or gtfo."

I think it's interesting as hell where people draw that line in their relationships

Armistice

Good writers find a way to make you relate to them. After reading/listening to them, you end up feeling like you know them on a personal level.

So when I get genuinely pissed that I'm not as good of a creative writer as say, a Frank Ocean, I have to be okay with that. Hes a talented writer, probably one of the better ones out there, BECAUSE what he writes is relatable. It makes me feel like, "I know him personally. I know what he's anxious about, what makes him nervous, what he loves. Shit, he's just a regular dude. If he can do it, so can I!" But the fact of the matter is that I dont know him. He's a terrific writer and as much as I feel like I can do what he does, truth is I just plain can't do it as well as him. And that's okay

Crack Rock

I think it's important to find a way to genuinely love your enemy. Empathize with them and figure out why they are how they are, and all that stuff.

Much better than bringing more hate into ze vorld

Pink Matter

It's dope that you're even willing to put yourself in that position! I'm a huge fan of putting yourself in weird/awakward positions. You get to see what kind of person you are by looking at how you respond

She Was And You Are Madly Involved

One of the biggest things I look for in a girl that I consider a potential girlfriend is how we argue. If the dynamics behind our arguments are even a little bit unhealthy, then it doesn't bode well for her and I. To explain, lemme introduce a sports analogy.

In any major sport, coaches and general managers need to have a general philosophy on how to build their team. Together they need to decide the direction that the team will take.

Will they sacrifice long term success for making a run in the short term? Will they tank in the present in hopes of doing well in the future? Are they more concerned with getting wins above everything or does the process matter?

That last question is huge. Being result-oriented means you don't give a damn how things play out, as long as you get results. It doesn't matter if your team played terribly as long as you got the win.

Being process-oriented means you don't mind taking a loss if it means that your team was still playing its best, playing the way you want them to. It doesn't matter that your team lost because they still played well and stuck to the game plan.

In sports, it's a luxury to be able to afford to try to go for being both process-oriented and goal-oriented. I can't think of one franchise that successfully goes for both; pretty much every franchise chooses one or the other.

And when arguing with the person you're in a relationship with, just like sports, you have to choose one or the other. In this case, being goal-oriented means you care about who wins and who loses. It's almost like sports where you keep a count of wins and losses.

In my case, I'm very much process-oriented. This means I don't care who wins and who loses the arguments. I care more that we argue in a decent and healthy way. I hope we keep the yelling and screaming to a minimum and work more towards keeping a decent discussion with us working rationally and logically towards a shared conclusion.

I could see someone making the argument that if my boo and I are working logically and rationally, that just doesn't sound very romantic; that this way of arguing is devoid of passion and emotion. To that I say that it's not like logic and emotion are on opposite ends of a scale; both are, in my mind, completely independent variables. To say that a logical and rational argument is an argument devoid of emotion and passion is ignorant. I guarantee that my arguments with my boo are going to be full of emotion and passion. I can't imagine anything more beautiful than mi novia y yo working together to solve our problems in a logical way. Hell, afterwards we could celebrate by fucking each others' brains out or cooking a nice dinner together. Yeah, fuck anyone who says that logical and rational arguments lack passion and emotion. Just because we're not yelling and screaming doesn't mean we're not taking each others' emotions into consideration.

tl;dr Fuck who wins and who loses, it's okay to take a loss. It's more important that the arguments that take place between mi novia y yo are process-oriented as opposed to goal-oriented.

My Whole Life Long

My wife and I will dedicate every other Sunday morning to bumping music super loud throughout the house and cleaning everything from top to bottom. Dusting, sweeping, vacuuming, washing, you name it. Then we'll proceed to have sex all over the place. We'll call it...nvm that part is tbd, lol